By admitting that she has herpes, your partner is showing how considerate and caring she is. Sometimes it's because you don't dress right, sometimes it's because you don't make enough money, sometimes it's because you have 4 kids from a previous relationship and their mom has some serious issues that she thinks the whole world should have to deal with and other times it's because you told someone you have genital herpes. Countless herpes support groups have been grouped together and herpes dating sites have come to our sight. I'm now torn between my desire to continue dating her, and protecting my own health. Herpes is just one factor in the equation.
You don't need to respond right now. Something that most of us have never asked for. Every virus ran through my family with so many of us. I felt like a part of me died with this diagnosis. I understand that the chances of having picked up the infection from her over these 2 enounters is very small, and I also get it that if I choose to date her and have regular sex with her which is a given if I do date her , then I'll have about 5-15% risk of getting it.
Dawson, Well written think these and I applaud you for tackling this head on. In this Article: It's likely that you will date someone with herpes at some point in your life. You can rationalize it however you want, you simply cannot call someone shallow for not wanting a disease. If you genuinely love the person, then work through it. The ones who matter are the ones who say yes.
I have never experience this type of relationship before and perhaps that is why so many have failed for me in the past. If I turn out to be positive, I'm sure I'll continue seeing her. It's your choice whether you want to keep dating someone after learning of their herpes diagnosis. Some people will be exposed to it and never get it. They put some kind of acid like stuff on warts 4 days ago and they are no longer there. But it did upset me a lot at first, and I did feel dirty and tainted.
She only saw the negatives and downfalls. I started looking for opportunities to share this fact about myself, seizing the chances presented by time spent waiting in line to pee at frat parties and by lively class discussions about health care. People have the right to be afraid for stupid reasons, or say no for any reason or no reason at all. But also go do some searches on Google and start learning about this virus. Suppressive therapy, for example, can lower the risk of transmission significantly. I know numerous people with genital and oral herpes who are open about disclosing their condition.
It's the one thing that's stood out to me most in all the years of school. My girlfriend opened up to me after a month of dating and copious unprotected sex that she had genital herpes, that she was on suppression medication and that she had not had an outbreak for 3 years. There are so many great things about you. You can hug and even kiss each other without any concern at all. She got it from kissing family members at a Christmas party.
As a woman who likes to browse both subs, it use to make me feel really unwelcome here, but I just ignore it now. The cost is far greater than just the disease itself. The majority of people who have it, don't know it. If you cannot do that, or have let the harassment you have endured stop you from doing that, or negatively color your view, then why did you start the movement in the first place? I had such a horrible experience this week. Now, oh how the pendulum has swung in the opposite direction. They do not barter or keep score, or make a pros and cons list when it comes to asking you on a third date.
If you like someone enough, herpes can be just something you have to work with. Yes… it is pretty natural to be wary and grossed out if you see someone with a drippy cold digging in the communal silverware tray or someone with a cold sore offering you a sip out of their cup. The next trick is not judging yourself. And spreading it all over my body, from lips to vaginal region. Do I go with the bird in hand, or move on and hurt a decent person in the process.