Be strong mentally One of your premium survival skills when dating a cop would be your mental strength. Bad Press And Reputation Unfortunately police officers are prone to attracting negative reputation, which is a common problem that can influence your opinion on the suitability of a potential partner. A relationship with one can be challenging but if you truly love each other, it will work out. If you can tell he will be good to you go for it! Who doesn't love a man in a uniform? I continue to assert myself though and make it known that he won't be able to control me I'm an independent woman always have been always will be and he may not know it but that's why he likes me. Another important task of the partner is feedback. Their day includes a car chase, bringing down the bad guys and then coming home to an equally exciting and passionate night with the one who waits at home.
Its like she said about the rockstar attitude! U will go through hard times no dought like having to worry if he is coming home that night but it depends on where u live but if u really like this guy then go for it. You learn what is important and what is not. Mine wouldn't even let me take the trash out once it gets dark. I plan on falling head over heels for this man and doing just about anything to make him happy because he makes me happy. Excellent benefits, stable employment once you're established as full time. This will help you identify any issues you may have regarding how your behaviour affects the progress of the relationship.
A lot of women don't understand that if they do something wrong at work and their sergeant yells at them, a guy cop will generally say, Ok, Sgt. Many positions involve patrolling around the clock and this means a police officer is likely to work shifts — four days on and four days off — which can easily play havoc with your social arrangements and life plans. Better still develop a few interests which will help you to fill time when your partner is away on duty. If you do decide to get involved with him, brace yourself. And it takes a hopelessly devoted man to turn that down on a daily basis. Remind him to remember he's more than just a police officer.
At the same time it means having a partner who is passionate about what they do, and who is bringing home a good salary with a good pension plan. God bless you as you look for love! Shift work is another thing about cops. He's protective in a way that makes you feel loved not controlling at all. Him being a cop is irrelevant. Talking about it definitely helped me. It can be very intimidating for the person who is dating a female cop who carries a gun and has a constitutional authority to take a life. I'm lucky that we live in a small town where there's not a lot of crime so I don't really worry about him too much but in a big city I would for sure that would be torture just waiting for him to get hurt every day.
You're part of a warrior family because you have chosen someone who is in a warrior class. I wouldn't change it for anything in the world, however. Unless he is not that good of a cop or he does it as a job and not a profession, his on duty persona and training will change and impact his off duty persona and behavior. And some rumors say that cops are wives beaters. You really have nothing to worry about. For all of the negatives that go along with dating a cop, such as their time and attention not always being yours, their unique responses to life's challenges and their need to be catered to on a fairly regular basis, there are also positives. Once again, Smith recommends he or she understand the officer and her job.
The intensity of their job can have differing effects on a relationship in both good and not so good ways. If he did anything stupid it was always my fault. Mine is Federal and trust me, when the Chief, Captain, whoever calls he has to leave. Adam demos dating Publication date: July 2014. You can rest easy knowing that your life is in the hands of a seasoned, experienced driver with years of practice. If you are a very independent and ambitious person with your own goals, sometimes that extra free time can help you feel not so suffocated by your relationship.
I can say that with every moment with or without him my mind starts to wander off places I've never dreamed. Police officers have partners on the job — and value loyal partners at to support them, too. You can't unseen the injured. That's not it, but really, after working a scene where 4 teenagers got their heads cut off in a car accident, saving toddlers from a house where there's feces caked on the wall and parents are passed out from drugs all day, taking abused and horrifically battered women to shelters and fighting the subhuman boyfriend to arrest him, etc. A male reader, , writes 7 February 2009 : i cant say Im in a relationship with a cop. It takes a lot of mental and physical fortitude to brave the risks of law enforcement life, but it takes just as much willpower to give your heart to a man who is in that situation as well. I believe it never will be with him.
I help abused orphans and widows. He's been honest with me. But a real woman can handle it, survive it, and love it. I couldn't agree more with not pushing them to talk about how their day at work went. He would give his phone number out to women he met on his job and had them calling all hours of the night and he would lie and tell me that he had to go into work, and I would find out later that he wasn't at work. It's hard for him to seperate his job from his life.
It takes a strong person to be with a cop. You have to willing put yourself second to the job. This bothers me considering how humble of a person I am. A police officer with a good personality will be loved by the entire community. A reader, anonymous, writes 12 January 2011 : I am upset that so many people just think cops are cheaters. He always spent time with his buds and labeled me possesive to them because I wanted to spend time him. Half of the time, you won't be able to reach them at work, if they work in a high crime-rate district.