I literally picture him encouraging me to just get out of bed; guiding me out of bed and telling me he will motivate me all day on a given day to get something done. I have seen this in various places on the internet. We started our career as newly minted lawyers, a future bright. But please consider individual counseling for yourself to keep yourself from defragmenting. I am lucky and I know that I am. Whatever it is chemically or genetically that makes men do this, we also take into our opposite-sex relationships.
And no, not all that happens on those bad days are my fault. To tease, mock, belittle, make fun of their wives in front of others. Knowing that at least one person can no only see but understand, makes me feel a little less alone. He immediately got angry and accused me of making things up, etc, etc and I ended up apologizing for bringing anything up. I like some of those too.
There is nothing worse than physically being incapable of feeling good enough to get motivated to move and be something in your life. The best we can do is to try to make our spouses happy. I am honest to a fault because my truths always get me in trouble. My husband is a good person. If you no longer agree with the perspective I criticized above, the onus, I would argue, is on you to communicate that proactively. Me and that guys case is different.
Belittling, mean and a narcissistic bully. You've documented the individual issues, now maybe pick a few of the more prominent battles therein, and make modest goals of serious progress on a few of them in the very near future. I look forward to each and every day I get to spend with you, and here's why: 1. I want to be something. Insurmountable for me but too old to make the necessary changes. It's this ability to completely trust in each other that has allowed our love to not only survive, but thrive! We brought out the best in each other. But I know you are angry still.
He would return your efforts by expressing gratitude and being sweet. The message I point you to is harsh and difficult to hear, but it will build you and help you gain confidence and direction. But I also like being serious from time to time when necessary… It is weighing on me. Lol Ladies we have to pray for our shitty husbands before the become Suthors of another shitty husband blog!! Losing my family was the worst thing that ever happened to me. Those Shabbatot are some of my favorite memories. Where do we get our idea of it? Psychologists recommend a balanced approach, which both controls the emotion and allows it to express itself in a healthy way. My husband says he doesn't want to work all day and have to come home and help me with anything.
So, this is between me and you, nevermind that its open to the public and anyone can see, in my mind because I can't talk to you right now, this is between us, this is the way I'm going to let you know on a day to day or week to week basis how I'm feeling. Men really hurt need to be aware of how poisonous it can be to their relationships. Sure that real can be the ultimate worst at times, and I am sorry for that, but the good has been real good. Mistakes that we have both made have made scars. Dealing with his insecurities, his mommy and daddy issues, dealing with just him. Even the nicest of us sit around playfully mocking one another.
I am all about the picking up of a mirror theory you proposed and that is why I approached the forum. You think you are a better person than your husband. I never got to thank you for all you did for our family to give us a good life and for that, I apologize. To know that others other men are doing this. My wife and I have one child and our own home. Do we even care to discuss it? Also doesnt want to support my ideas and is waayy older than me. This can be damaging to the kids and is crazy-making, rage-provoking stuff for the wife.
I want out of the marriage. Have a calm conversation about your need for real help. In our house, tensions have been high, and when we sat down to talk through a few things, I placed the blame almost entirely on him. As if I could get a job with nothing but the useless title of 'mother' on my resume for 22 years. I just stick it out because we have children.
Maybe that's because you've always had my back. Should all else fail, she brings up everything I ever did wrong in my entire life until I just quit, let her win, and go find someplace else to sleep. I pray this message brings you back to the seductive, beautiful, woman that I know you all be. Like The same problem I see. I just wanted to say that I really appreciate your blog here, and find it practically eerie how well you describe these shitty husband situations. I really need to work on being a better wife. I think any woman who was treated with rejection as a child and physically abused by a boyfriend as a teen would have issues as I do.