She is more outward in emotional expression, while I am more guarded among non-intimates and inward. However, my partner is also a refuge. In order to not be misunderstood, the person doesnt need to be totally understood nor validated, just not judged, especially prematurely. It is a conscious act on my part to allow those around me the time and space they need to process their stuff without my stepping in and feeling like I am making a difference. I make split second decisions based on information around me in the back of my mind, as well as how it affects others before me. Before we started dating my husband told me he could never be with me because we were like oil and water — and in a sense, he was right.
The issue here is neither of us have some kind of monopoly on empathy the other lacks, but we express it differently. But for some people, you can get the message across better if you use the soft approach. So, I definitely lead with authenticity. I know it when I feel it. I totally and thoroughly disagree.
They rely on focused, complex inner maps of ideas of the present and future. Thank you for the insight. Healthy infps are as far removed from those as possible. She never gets into trouble with authorities, has a clean track record and people generally likes her. Any help would be awesome. Yes, the world is a strange and cruel place.
Well … I am confused, hopeful and have two questions perhaps someone can help with. I do use my own emotions to make a decision, but I still feel the emotions of the other people involved. Hi I have been struggling with this distinction for a while now, and now my most recent conclusion is that I am an infj and my best friend is an infp. The funny thing about people pretending to understand or feeling what others feel, is that they usually are bad listeners. It is concerned with provable facts and the tried-and-true technique. I sometimes reference myself as both but this article puts it to rest.
I take on their views, their emotions, their perspectives, to such a degree I am sometimes tortured for days, usually getting back to seeing the validity of my own position after several days or weeks. I find that we compliment each other, and that is why we are still so passionately, madly in love with each other. Their brains are wired for coming up with fresh new names. I am at a loss. Why are they so different? Thinking about myself, I make decisions based on my moral code. This too can be understood by examining their respective functional stacks.
I take it on to such a high degree I find myself wanting to turn it off. She decided she was going to run a railroad when she was eight and was already halfway there by the time she was a teenager. Depending on your personality, you extravert certain parts of your personality and introvert other parts of your personality. Your metaphors are perfectly apt. The Jung Type Indicator is the property of Psytech International. Although in most things we have same attitudes we both care for people, we don't like to hurt them and we try to be nice more than it's good for us , but when it comes to talk about things that make life rich and meaningful - than we start to talk in different languages sometimes. Not to mention that throughout your life you also get to know yourself better and answer more honestly.
This happens to a lot of people when they're first getting into psychological type. This, in combination with their strength of feeling, leads them to experience an ever-changing array of intense sensations and emotions i. But this is the error of bias. I feel bad that I had misunderstood this behavior. When I do take a moment to empathize, sometimes I feel like I feel the emotion stronger than others… But only for a brief moment. The only real reasons I can figure for this are as follows: 1. Meanwhile, others yack on about themselves without making any connection to the experience of others, and somehow this is less self-absorped.
Upper Se focuses on doing, while upper Te focuses on doing efficiently. To me an opinion is subjective but has an objective basis. Maybe too, ask other people close and not-so-close how they see you, as it can open your eyes a lot, and also show you what is at your surface and what is beyond. I skimmed and almost passed over it until a certain observation caught my eye and sucked me in. I am certified in Myers Briggs and am passionate about helping people understand themselves and others better.
I hope this article can make clarifying your type easier. Do we have to be a specific type? I have an urge to swoop in and save people when they seem uncomfortable. She can express more fluently and adeptly, even when I may in some cases feel more empathy than she does. The primary purpose of this post was to breakdown the cognitive functions of each type in a way that people new to cognitive functions could understand. I no longer have very many lingering doubts concerning my type. I am often telling her to give someone a break, or taking the side of an underdog, but then we switch roles and then she is telling me to ease up on someone. Both are empathetic in a different way.