She is excruciatingly aware of the pain of others, so much so that she finds herself incapable of facing her guilt when she realizes it is her that has caused it. But just cause they don't say the words doesn't necessarily mean they won't act like it. It's a catch all but doesn't actually express what the person is actually saying. A woman's supposed to be apologetic, so is a man, as long as you've done something wrong or been an accomplice to something that went wrong. Thus the reason for the extremely high divorce rate today, 80% of divorces initiated by women and the no.
Eventually they feel they don't have to put ona show any more so don't apologize anymore. A simple apology would have ended it, would have stopped the entire thing in its tracks. I think it is very immature to not own up to something. Lastly, I wish you well. Still, Sir Tom McKillop was a model of contrition compared with Dick Fuld, former chairman of the defunct Lehman Brothers. They are no way 'fragile'! But what is done is done. A relationship with this type of person is draining and unfulfilling.
It requires a security in both the self and the situation that may not be there. And I failed you as that person. When we take a very close look at our need for others to apologize to us, we soon realize that most of the time we already know that the person we want an apology from cares about us. That just adds fuel to the fire. Most of us are aware that when our emotions rise to a certain level we become what could be labeled as irrational. It all has to be about him.
Thinking about how much someone has meant to you or assisted you means so much more when it is given voice - in words or in deed. Unfortunately, due to a prior commitment that I am unable to change, I will not be able to attend the meeting. They look to make amends. Children are different and my kids are more emotional, I have to extra careful and patient, my home life know one spoke their feelings out load and punishments were never given. Nothing I suggested was ever well received. If the problem persists, better go your separate ways because greater heart-aches await you in future. Get a job in a location far away from her.
Although I will not say that women are sub-human, simply very misguided. A marriage where you've invested physically and emotionally is only expected to be fair, if not best to your taste. I don't think I can take much more of it. My best friend had ceased to be that. We go into what might be called a state of emotional inhibition. This, in hindsight, is not to ever excuse my verbal retorts and manipulation. I mean, when was the last time a politician made a public apology on the heels of some scandal that was strong enough to encourage an entire nation to simply forgive the politician for what he was apologizing for? I learnt from childhood that love is hard to get and that love can only be shown when worked for it.
But they are very immature when it comes to morality and ethics, what we call having a good conscience. In order to get help they must admit to bad behavior, and this causes them too much shame, so they are caught in a downward spiral of misbehaving and cover-up. The emotional abuse was relentless, unremitting, and deeply hurtful. She is now expecting an apology no matter what. After all, being able to apologize to those we are closely connected to is a crucial relationship skill. I was a work-in-progress, but barely.
I am bisexual, but have been living with a man for 12 years. Sometimes I feel like the reason I am so on edge is because I have spent over a decade apologizing for every single problem in our relationship. For people who do not apologize, they see themselves as always being right, which is unrealistic because no one is ever right or wrong all the time. I have a narcissistic mother too, but unlike yours she did everything unintentionally. Some people find it so hard to apologize that getting them to admit to even the smallest wrongdoing involves a major battle—often, a fruitless one. Somehow their insincerity quickly turns into excuses and blame.
I am in a slightly different situation. Too bad there wasnt a magic pill for narcissism eh? Let me show you how. Like I now understand her, and she feels that way. Anyone have a better way to integrate the lesson into an action? It should never to be used to say you can't go to a meeting after you have already accepted the invitation. When someone can't admit they are wrong think of a big black hole where that function should be. I could not realise anything what was happening between us as I never experienced that before.
The narcissist will use all sorts of malicious weapons to avoid taking responsibility and apologising, including adamantly and righteously denying any wrong doing, using lies as weapons to distract, citing that he or she did apologise when no credible apology was forthcoming, projecting by reaching into past unrelated incidents to use any slight he or she can muster against the other person, or by creating abandonment or threats to abusively make the other person back down or take on the fault instead. Stop moving when you sleep you wake me up. Some of them even presented themselves as the first protesters, until it seemed that the residents of the tents on Rothschild Boulevard were members of Likud's youth movement sent out from the party's adjacent headquarters. I always suspected the non-apologist types had something to do with the ego. I spent 2 years in prison…. Highly revered experts on compassion, like the Dalia Lama, other Buddhists and mystics, caution against opening yourself to the life-threatening risk that resides in convincing yourself that you are not hungry emotionally. It would be consoling to believe that these individuals know in their hearts they are at fault, but are advised not to admit it.