I would ask why she seems to think keeping things as they are is an acceptable solution? Says things like I belong to him. You are the only one who can gauge whether or not divorce is the answer to your problems. Maybe as far as providing a home for them but lack of emotional and mental stability will be way more damaging to them than the stability of a roof over their head will be helpful And even your wife has a right to be happy. But I don't want to leave coz I'm afraid of society. This is why they cheat and lie. And so for 25 years I stayed.
Never seen them support one another, embrace one another in something that wasn't routine. Is there any saving it? Know what turns you on so that you can communicate that with him. You currently have 0 posts. Everything he does annoys the crap out of me. I hope it goes well for you. Maybe he feels used and unappreciated? And every time I talk to him about any problems we have he apologizes and says I love you I don't think sometimes, but he always know what to do for other specialy for women but not me. He's spent 25 years of marriage getting fired, followed by long periods of unemployment.
The admission itself will get his attention because most men snap to attention when the topic turns to sex. Are you tired of the trying, so tired you can't muster of the energy to even engage anymore? Look, it comes down to this. Live your life being authentic and honest. But then my husband started flirting with her and when I talked to him about it he would apologize and said I don't know what came over me. I'm so angry at myself but, I am also relieved that I didn't invest years only to learn this. Our marriage is dead, I dread the days he's not on the road. We dont talk about the past or argue at all about what she did.
Think about your own actions. He was paying all her rent and expenses. Some posters say you need to relax that's true cuz that's when your muscles down there can loosen up. These are all questions you don't need to answer here but you do need to answer to yourself and to a counselor. When you don't voice your feelings in a proper manner or stand up for yourself, hurt turns to resentment. So I dont get out much.
I, myself, at 50, love living alone! If not, divorce is not an option. Does the idea of sex with your spouse cause you to shudder? I never imagined myself being married to someone so needy, dependent, and insecure. Please feel free to share more of your insights and experiences in the future. I feel like I have failed my marriage and him. Regardless, staying in and unhappy marriage and cheating on your wife just to avoid the unpleasantness of divorce is not ideal. I am not sure it is a date all the time though. So for the first 10 months i tried to show my daughter to my dad and he nor my wife would budge.
Cause talking to her is like a bricj wall that dosent think she is wrong on anything. He was re-enacting one of our fights and changing the modulation of his voice to represent ether me high pitched or his father lower pitched. Do you want a divorce or separation? Work to accept that you feel the way that you feel and that that doesn't make you a bad person. If you do get rid of him, document every hour that he has the kids. I have endured years of emotional abuse and on occasion physical abuse.
I hear too many women complain about how childish their husbands are, do you ever stop to ask yourself why that's the case? I dont believe in buying expensive things because someone wants to show off. I have spent some serious money on them. What am I getting out of this marriage? I don't think I need to go on. Since he was based in Abuja, we managed to maintain a long distance relationship and only got to see each other whenever he came to Lagos, which was not often. What the hell am I thinking! Besides they are young adults now. He will flat out tell anyone that he is an a-hole but won't do a thing to change it. The garage has his high school posters up in it.
My marriage and relationship with my husband has gotten so bad. I hate to complain about working all the time but i have no connection with him. You're opinion is not the -end all be all- Grow Up. Plus i dont want to be caught dead getting out of a 50k car. My son eats chicken nuggets nearly every day. They have some real issues that need to be addressed. I asked him to stop his drinking habit and smoking marijuana he wont.