Twelve years into our marriage I was learning to trust him again but he was sent to Indonesia and he fell in love like never before. It was the direction can of him second-guessing himself. Again, I believed what I wanted to believe. However this chic he was fooling with contacted him about a month ago mad because I exposed her and him on cheaterville and yes he was mad too. An affair will change all of that. As far as I know, no guy has ever really gotten over retroactive jealousy. Try to stay strong for you and your wife.
I have to remind myself that God has this. Once Christmas came I again received nothing and decided to leave. Why would you beg someone to have a child with you only to do this to them? Probably due to all the stress of money issues, lies and guilt. I was not a true Christian though, in the way I lived my life and marriage. Thank you for sharing your strife as well. By 47, your bodies have thickened and drooped. I was dumped more times than I would like to admit because of it.
I fear that there will be the day when I will not want sex and it will be almost forced in the heat of the moment because of the impact of alcohol…my bottom line is I cannot have a sexual relationship in these conditions. We are trying to work it out, but I can't let go of the anger and it seems to be pushing him away. Moreover, are there any blokes reading that can empathise at all? I cant even enjoy bjs. I asked him if he wants to work out the relationship between us, get a divorce and go our separate ways. My boyfriend does everything he can to make me happy is so good with the kids yet he irritates me beyond anything. Anyway, jealousy is very hard to control and first of all you need to let yourself feel it. We flew in on June the tenth to a very fast moving morning with my husband loading the van just about dragging customs ourtt with the luggage, I was sent throught the declaration line first to figure out what his hurry was and Tell him we were going to stop for breakfast and give him the boots we chipped in for as a peace offering and show him the albums we made and start making the plans for after the Christmas shut down, to go on vacation then, I got to the van and I think the tears started coming on then He had his cloths, hanging in the back hook.
And last night, is when it became a big issue for me. And also, do you have any history to balance it? He gave me the old, we work together I have to talk with her bullshit. It was a very sour feeling everyone getting into the van to go home, I tried a new tack, I said If we waited till January we could go to an island or beach and Have the three weeks there. Then I thought the cause was my self-image problems with the way i look. All during his black outs. It's a rare person who can lock down a relationship at your age and keep it for life.
The only difference for me is I chucked him out straight away. Recently, she revealed to me all of her sexual history which she had kept secret up until now. I found that self doubt began when the emotional abuse circled. We ailed in total to get him to reenlist at that time. Youth has nothing to do with it, if anything you can more easily compromise and grow together. He's a wonderful guy, I know a lot of deep and personal things about him, he truly is, but his fantasies- although they aren't out of the ordinary, they sicken me. Were legs really the deal-breaker? I have 24 yes with him 3 children and we have a grandchild….
Him not being willing to cut loose completely and permanently would be the end for me. I gave more love than I got and maybe I need to learn to care for my needs before my husbands. Many women are married to men that they aren't sexually attracted to. Your answer will be helpful, thanks. Anything less is a recipe for wandering eyes and future infidelity.
Months past everything was good and my husband came to me and ask if I still think of my exes and what not i told him no, forgetting about the situation that prevailed, he showed me call logs of when I called them, I was lost for words and it just look so wrong, he was so hurt and betrayed and i felt so bad for lying to him. I thank Evan for his advice and insight, his reading recommendations, and his encouragement through this process! I will say I am no fool if I ever caught him again I would not stay. He bought a plane ticket at the beginning of December and met with her in January of this year giving the excuse that a friend of his had invited him to visit. He did have a heart attack during this process. I believe in one marriage only, like we said in our vows. This is truly a men's struggle, and an uncalculated casualty of sexual liberation. Thanks in advance if you reply and good luck! I would lock myself in the bathroom for at least 15 min.
The real problem is that I do love him, but ever since my son was born three years ago, I've been repulsed at the thought of any kind of physical contact with my husband. Has he no notion of the need to set the scene? I cried it was not fauir his father should ask this but he said socialy the only person in our marriage that had any consideration due was me, my husband just needed to learn to take things with a little grace and accept his role in life. Is there a reason for this. He also travel for work and admitted to a one night stand-he got addicted to the thrill. I am not saying that it is easy to let go of the anger, because you want to allow yourself to feel what you feel… but it is healthier if you can blunt their impact on you and move on in whatever way you think is best for you and your family.
Now, even though I still love him, I am repulsed by the thought of having sex with him and have been for quite a while. I was working on a five week rental in st Croix starting the second of January 2010. Last night my fiance told me that I have been very distant. And for the most part it is happy. As long as he continues to drink, I will never trust him again.