Thanks for your increasingly thoughtful comments…. I'm clearly in the latter category — my relationships are conventionally configured: when I dominate someone, or imagine allowing myself to be dominated, it's a way of having fun, not a way of organizing power in a way that extends beyond the beginning and the end of a sexual encounter. This child will cry if something is not their way. That giving, the trust embedded in it, the confidence that all will be good if left to me, is the moment of maximal excitement for me. Presently there was a distant blare of military music; it came nearer, still nearer, and soon a noble cavalcade wound into view, glorious with plumed helmets and flashing mail and flaunting banners and rich doublets and horse-cloths and gilded spear- heads; and through the muck and swine, and naked brats, and joyous dogs, and shabby huts, it took its gallant way, and in its wake we followed. The people at my extremely expensive private high school were making fun of me because my phone came out last month and theirs are all brand new! There is a whole separate aspect to this, one that involves the sheer physicality of dominance, but that's a discussion for another day.
That'll help you understand a bit more about me, and about what's here, more efficiently. The page, though, is essential to understanding anything else that goes on here. That you want him to dominate you in every aspect. I want to earn your trust, and, having earned it, be given your body. Well, of course, there are an infinitude of kinds of submissives — but there are two useful broad categories into which submissives can be divided. I want, at every moment, to feel that what I want is, by definition, what you want. This seems silly to me.
We can live in the car when the house gets taken away! What I crave, as a dom, is precisely the opposite of what a bratty sub has to offer; what I have to offer is precisely the opposite of what she craves. The links in the top bar provide one path. You are actually one of the few people and the first dominant I've come across to see a difference between needing to be dominated and needing to submit; a difference which I, too, think is very real, despite my arguments about brattiness. It sounds perverse, I know, even child-like, but a submissive needs a very solid construct of trust, and if she cannot trust the dominant to ensure that he has her respect, how can she trust him to respect her? Their pleasure comes not from defiance being overpowered, but from devoted service. And if you aren't into that, there really isn't the environment in which brattiness can flourish. That your desires are not of the vanilla kind. In some dynamics, playful resistance not bratty defiance on the part of the submissive is part of this.
Thus includes hitting and about their expensive things to their cousins. There's a lot of different stuff going on in this blog. A prolonged, more penis-image-conjuring version of the slang term johnson. A brandname name of bratwurst sausages, perhaps recognized to some Canadians because of their low-budget, absurd commercial from about 2005. The categories of my posts - , , , , and - provide another.
Note: another funny sausage name to bastardize by referring to penises is English Banger. That giving, the trust embedded in it, the confidence that all will be good if left to me, is the moment of maximal excitement for me. . This is what, for me, is so powerful about submission: it ensures a complete congruence of desire, a congruence on which I may rely, completely. They often have elaborate and expensive parties. That latter form of a relationship is radically different…. It's a way in which boundaries are explored, a way to determine to what extent a dominant can be trusted, or perhaps, can be relied on.
So I take nothing away from those who want their compliance, their submission, to be wrested from them — or from those doms who prefer to discipline a bratty sub. Michael Bader wrote about this in his excellent and , on his. Turns out, I learned in my 30s, some women most? This child often will abuse and their family members. I take reassurance in that structural congruence. There are some people for whom this is just how they like to be: they enjoy being a smart-ass, and they enjoy the fight, and they enjoy losing the fight. And I take great pleasure in achieving your submission by causing you to want to give it to me, rather than by taking it from you.
That you want him to spank you when you break the rules. Isn't it a journey of mutual testing, of trying out and discarding, so that you both are confident of being safe in the other's care? That you need and crave consequences for your brattiness. When they are caught they make a fake story and cry to get out of trouble. They wait on this child hand and foot through their teen years and fill their head with a distorted view of reality. .
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